The aroma pipes through the house like an early 90’s commercial. Remember the commercial of the soldier coming home early in the morning to surprise his family? His sis brewing coffee in the kitchen? (If not, that is a sign of my age)
Coffee plays the role of an invitation to adulthood. It is a goal as a child to get to drink coffee with the adults, right? Can you relate? Even before my first taste, coffee represents a correlation to goodness. Saturday mornings, before getting up from rest, I hear Mom start the water faucet, get it running, and fill the craft for coffee.
Eventually, as I smell the coffee reach my room, I stroll to the living room, as a 7 year old for some of my favorite moments with Mom. During the early morning hours, before anyone else is awake, we sit in each others presence in quiet, at first, before we get lost in chatting the morning away She enjoys her coffee, while I enjoy my comfy blanket. Morning coffee is a secret as a child. It’s a charming and healing experience. Shhh! It still is!
Coffee is also at Grandma and Grandpa’s house, during childhood. My brothers and I always love camping out on their living room floor. I hear my Grandmother start the coffee, before the sunrise. She carefully climbs over our long legs and sits in her chair in the quiet while it brews. Grandma gets in a few sips looking forward to my Mom joining her to talk quietly. Being in the presence of my Mom and Grandmother is a feeling of joy. It also means that my Uncle is probably going to stop over and maybe even, cousin Phyllis.
Waking up at Grandma’s is also where I learn about humility. Hold on to your bed head, it’s never too early for family members and friends to stop over for morning coffee. First things first at Grandma and Grandpa’s house. Time in the presence with one another.
Learning to enjoy the bitter taste of coffee
As the years pass, I learn to enjoy drinking coffee, and find it to be present as I begin my career and experience the learning curve of a graphic designer. But all of these experiences are only half the story.
Coffee and conversation are the tools required for mending broken hearts and difficult decisions. It’s also present during difficult moments and sufferings. When studying for a rough test in college and staying up all night, coffee is by my side. It is also there at the bedside of a family member going through surgery, and when a friend is going through a rough time. It’s even at funerals.
Grab a cup of coffee and stick with me
So why write about this? Stick with me, I promise there is a reason. All of these memories are flooding back to me as I explore deep thoughts about who we are as humans and what it means to be God’s creation. Deep, right? Bear with me.
It all starts when I learn about a book called “A New Earth, Awakening to Your Life’s Purpose” by Eckhart Tolle. And then another one called “The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself” by Michael A. Singer. These books reflect on our inner voice and the inner ego that we all experience. They discuss how it’s possible to be at peace within ourselves when we quiet the voice and find our own spirit. We are not our conscience narrative of what we are experiencing. And when we can find this place, then we can learn how to remove our ego from the equation. Eventually, this will help us to respond to present situations calmly and thoughtfully.
These authors refer to how our worry about the future takes away from the present. And that by worrying about the future, we are not able to experience spiritual opportunities in our current moments. Right now, for example, as you read this blog post.
How does coffee and ego connect to finding God?
Jennifer Fulwiler recently discussed some things on her podcast that brought my recollection of “coffee moments” and “finding inner peace” together. She mentioned that generally, when we think about the future, we are anticipating the worst things that could happen in a situation. Usually to prepare ourselves in the event that the worst does happen (which in most cases doesn’t actually happen, at least how we envision it). Jennifer also reflects on how we are usually alone in the creative thinking of our scenarios.
She asks, “Where is God? Where are we placing God in our futuristic scenario? Because isn’t he always there?” Isn’t he in all of our “coffee moments”, for example?
He is next to us in those beautiful mornings with family. God is next to us in hospital rooms, while we comfort a friend, and while mourning the deaths of loved ones. He is next to us in the present and He will be next to us in the future.
God is in the people that made the coffee. He is in us as children, falling in love with the presence of family, of Him. And perhaps it’s not the aroma of the coffee that we love so much, but the joy of God in our lives and being in the presence of our Lord. We experience Him through the people that we love and who love us. In moments of gratefulness, joy, presence of others and in difficult situations, decisions and even death, we can rest in the presence of God.
Your “loves” and the present moment
The next time you worry about the future and get that cup of coffee to ponder it, don’t forget to include our heavenly Father next to you in the scenario. Envision your “loves” presence and the presence of our Lord. And eventually, maybe we can learn to leave the future to God and enjoy the present, sitting with Him, now.
May God bless you and your family.